Becoming Self-Aware?

Develop your self-awareness:

1. Notice your thoughts. Unless you’ve been meditating for years, your mind is constantly churning through ideas and endlessly providing commentary. You can’t just look at a tree and admire it, your mind has to comment, “That’s a beautiful tree.” Then it’s off to the races.

Notice your thinking patterns. What are you thinking when you’re feeling nervous? Bored? Interested? Irrated? Sadness? Notice that similar situations result in similar thought patterns.
 
 

Do you judge people and situations? Do you spend a lot of time thinking about the past or who did it from the past? Do you expect the worst to happen or the best? Or do you adopt an attitude of, “Let’s just see what happens”? Becoming aware of your thought patterns can get you ahead of the negative patterns and become better at recovering.

2. Notice your feelings. What are you feeling throughout the day? What do you feel while you’re eating? Driving to work? Lying in bed? Waiting in line? Is it constantly negative? Is it always about what others are doing or have done to you?

Once you’ve noticed your emotions, question it. What am I feeling? Why? What do I need right now? How do I normally react in this situation? Is that smart? THIS PART IS VERY IMPORTANT!!

3. Understand how you deal with frustration or emotional discomfort. A huge chunk of your time is spent trying to make yourself feel better. If you feel slightly frustrated or uncomfortable, then you may spend a tremendous amount of time and energy trying to change the situation or others around you to resolve those negative feelings, to avoid being uncomfortable.

Do you try to control others? Do you attempt to distract yourself with how you're a good person? Is your first instinct to leave the situation or confront someone else? Do you surf through your phone to see who you can vent to?

4. Examine your intimate relationships. Do you see a pattern in the type of people that you’ve been involved with? What are the negative characteristics they all share? Why do you think those people appealed to you? Do you need to remove yourself from those people? Are they healthy for you and are you healthy for them?

What were your shortcomings in your relationships? Are you clingy? Jealous? Too focused on work? Failed to communicate your needs? Think about how you contributed to the failure of your relationships, friendships and family relationships. (See if you are the common denominator) That's normally very difficult for the majority of us because placing blame on others is so much easier.
 
 

Have you changed your approach from relationship to relationship, or do you continue to repeat your mistakes?

6. Keep a journal. There’s no better way to learn about yourself than to record your thoughts, feelings, and experiences each day. Studies have shown that we don’t remember our past very accurately, so record it while it’s still fresh in your mind. Be sure to include your high and low points for the day.

Note how well you ate and slept, too. You might find some useful information there as well.
 
 

Create a habit of writing in your journal for at least 15 minutes each day. You’ll start to notice patterns and learn a lot about yourself.

Understanding yourself might be the most important piece of your self-development puzzle. If you don’t understand yourself, it’s difficult to apply all the great information available today. Maintain an awareness of your thoughts, feelings, and actions. Examine and question them. Be ok with FEELING uncomfortable, that's apart of self-examination and you’ll be surprised by what you find.